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You can create an extraordinary life with the wisdom of your soul. Let’s do it! Founder of @ZoeGoesOfficial 🎉 Free gift in link👇🏽

If you’re even a little curious or better yet, f

If you’re even a little curious or better yet, feeling called into something in this next stage of your life - Join us this Saturday June 3rd at 10amCT. The link to register is in the bio. 💜🙌🏽🎉

Not thinking about AI? Hmmm… you may want to cha

Not thinking about AI? Hmmm… you may want to change your position because it is very likely to change yours.

I’m no AI expert, not even close. But I do spot patterns and possibilities. Here’s a whack-a-doodle consideration. What if AI is the catalyst for the evolution of humanity?

Ok, stick with me for a second.

We had the Agricultural Revolution, Industrial, Digital, Information and Mobile. At each stage, technology allowed humans to evolve to higher levels of existence. Each era led to a multiplier of advances, but always with a human overlay - sparking innovation. Even though industries closed, others opened.

The AI Revolution is different. It doesn’t matter what industries are opening or closing; they’ll all be affected. Where does the average line editor or graphic designer or cashier go now AI can service my needs in minutes?

I am not a fatalist or a conspiracy theorist. I am the opposite. I see this change for what it can inspire, and require, us to evolve into - a higher level of human.

For now, we have something AI does not, original thought. That finesse, that creative spark, that unique point of view is what I invite you to master. As Seth Godin might say, what is your art? And yes, every role has a mastery, an artistic level of expression… something that only the human spirit can reveal.

What that is for you?

You have a unique expression, a soul code. It is a code of connection - to the rest of us. It outlines the role you are meant to play in our collective production of “We are the World”.

Listen, the safety zone that is complacency or mediocrity is gone.

If you are average at what you do, there’s likely an AI tool that can do it as well. If not today, give it a year.

The key is to step into your unique expression - that combination of strengths, passions, skills, and quirks that make you, you. And then make AI your b%*&h as you use it to be even better at what you do.
I’m hosting a live exploration of this concept - finding your unique expression; your genius juice. It’s a peek behind the curtain of my “Who Am I Now?” Program. It’s free, Saturday June 3rd, 10amCT. The link is in the bio. Join us!

You gotta love the Universe to bring things home…Shortly after I wrote notes for this post, Elie Wiesel’s quote “the opposite of love is not hatred, but indifference” popped up in a blog I was reading. I was floored. His reflection is brilliant. Of course! The greatest absence of life and love is the grey world of indifference - a lack of caring or emotion in either direction.

Fear will generally get you into action - forward motion of some sort. Indifference is akin to complacency - where you just don’t care enough to do something or change something. We can unwittingly find ourselves in that place when we ignore our urgings, our callings, our ah-ha’s…

This is a dangerous place because when we finally look up, it seems like time has evaporated and we wonder “how we got here so quickly?” And a longing, possibly regret, develops for something more then we reminesce about how it used to be - seeking good feels from our history.

What if the best times of your life were ahead of you? Are you willing to imagine that the rest of your life could not only be good enough, but great?

What if your Second Wind brought a life renaissance to you? What if your next stage was extraordinary?

Leaning into an extraordinary Second Wind starts by clearing confusion, doubt and programming that is not part of your original source code (aka Soul Code). In June I’ll be running a program where I share more techniques for clearing confusion and doubt so you can embrace #SecondWindLiving. Follow the link in the bio 👆🏽and we'll put you on the notification list and send you a FREE gift!

Feeling unhappy and suffering because we don’t f

Feeling unhappy and suffering because we don’t feel like we can
be,
do,
achieve something we want…
can be changed.

This is internal suffering is tied to beliefs about ourselves.
Where did those beliefs come from?
Are they truly ours? Or are they adopted from childhood, society, family, friends?
Yep, all of the above.
Do you want to keep them?
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You don’t have to.
You can discover what’s true for you.
You can decide against suffering and
call in your Second Wind.

Second Wind is a life renaissance where you clear the confusion and doubt so that you can lean in
to what YOU want to experience in this powerful stage of your life.

In June I’ll be running a program where I share more techniques for clearing confusion and doubt surrounding #SecondWindLiving. Follow the link in the bio 👆🏽and we'll put you on the notification list and send you a FREE gift!

What if Prince was your guardian angel? At the

What if Prince was your guardian angel?

At the root of what you do or don’t have is a complex set of beliefs that will often put you at what I call “cross-energies”. That’s where you’re putting out both energies that support your desire and energies that detract from your desire - often unconsciously.

Here are a few examples:
•           What you think is possible vs what you think is possible for you…
•           What you want vs what you think you can have…
•           What you deserve vs what you think you deserve…

Ooof…so messy and exhausting

Well, one of the ways that I align my energies is by taking a step back to sit with my wisdom council and reflect on the right mindset and actions.

On my wisdom council are amazing folks like Romare Bearden, Mozart, George Washington Carver, Tracee Ellis Ross, Kuan Yin, Maya Angelou, Jesus and Prince.

I use this technique to get out of my head and into my heart. Instead of me trying to “figure it out,” I ask my council.

Many of you may be familiar with the WWJD - “what would Jesus do?” exercise. It’s used to help guide people to compassionate action. I’ve simply expanded that concept to include others who inspire me. So I might ask, what would Prince say? In every occasion he invites me to “sing it with him…”.

Doubting…
“Baby I’m a star, you might not know it now, but baby yes I are…”

Feeling alone…
“Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here to get through this thing called life!” (Let’s go crazy)

Time to take a leap...
“Why should you wait any longer? Take a chance. It can only make you stronger. It’s your time” (Cream)

This is a powerful exercise. So much so that I developed an entire course around it - elements of which I use in my “Who Am I Now?” program beginning June 1st.

If you’re interested in learning more techniques like this and reframing what’s possible follow the link in bio 👆🏽and we'll put you on the notification list and send you a FREE gift!

So, June 1st I’m bringing together a group of in

So, June 1st I’m bringing together a group of incredible women and guiding them into the magic of their Second Wind – their most empowered stage in life - so that they bring to life all they desire and deserve. It’s called “Who Am I Now?”

It’s an experience that will change the way you see and live into this extraordinary life stage…
without stress,
without guilt,
without fear
without doubt
…and without judgement.

If you’ve had the nagging feeling like there’s more for you, but you don’t know exactly what it is, we’re going to clear the confusion and doubt.

If you’ve felt like your skills or training may be a bit outdated, lack value or relevance, we’re going to guide you to the brilliance of your lived experience,

If you’re ready to be active, powerful, and excited about your life, but you’re feeling that you’re past your prime, we’re going to blow up that myth and silence the gas-lighting.

I’m going to guide you straight through all the false illusions of what mid-life means and right into the power of #SecondWindLiving!

Interested? Put a 💜 in the comments or use the link in the bio to recieve notification on the course.

That pesky mid-stage anxiety isn’t going anywher

That pesky mid-stage anxiety isn’t going anywhere until you do this...

Sometimes I use a football stadium to illustrate how our fears and anxieties settle around us.

I invite you to imagine that you’re sitting in a football stadium alone at the 50-yard line. Filling all the other seats are your fears and anxieties, just surrounding you with a constant low-level drone of worry.

Yikes! Who wants that?

One way to address them - is to look at them.
Calling each one onto the field and shining a spotlight so we can see the flaws in the anxiety.

Handling worries about time passing, getting older, lost opportunities and regrets can be done the same way. Shine a light on it.

When we challenge the apparent fear, we discover that there’s nothing really to substantiate the fear. For instance, I was feeling some way about turning 60 this year like, “Wow, my mom died at 74. That would give me 14 more years. That’s not a lot of time left… ”

Whoa…who wants to sit in that anxiety?

The key is to ask, “What scares me here?”

When I really looked at it, one of the things I was worried about was strong bones and mobility. I don’t want to be bent over and barely able to move.

The next thing I asked was, “Ok, so what would I prefer?”

I’d prefer to be fluid, pain free and comfortable in my body. Well, often fluidity and comfort in the body can be addressed with strength, flexibility and mobility training. (Plus proper diet and mindset)

So, in addition to getting back to dancing and pilates. I am working with one of my clients who runs an amazing training center in Hyde Park. (@AnthosTraining who just won the “Best Gym in Chicago” award!). By acting on what worried me, I tamed the anxiety around my bones and flexibility.

I know, this can be scary territory. But these fears keep us out of our #SecondWindLiving AND guess what? You don’t have to do it alone. I’ll walk with you to expose the fears and blocks so that you can really live this next stage of your life.

If you’re interested in leaning into your Second Wind and reframing what’s possible follow the link in bio 👆🏽and we'll put you on the notification list and send you a free gift!

You decide. Really #thatsall #2ndwindliving #be

You decide.
Really #thatsall

#2ndwindliving #beyondblindspots

You may not be asking yourself this question exact

You may not be asking yourself this question exactly. But, if you’re at your Second Wind (aka mid-stage life) this life stage has probably led you to feel angst, frustration, doubt, irritation, anger, grief, worry or regret from one or all of the following:
* An emptying nest
* Being suddenly single (by death, divorce or habitual indifference)
* Readying for retirement or being downsized
* A lost sense of relevance
* A physical body that does not want to comply
* Insecurity about your financial security

All of the emotions that these circumstances activate, point to the same question
WHO AM I NOW?

The more empowering question is
WHO AM I CHOOSING TO BE?

Our Second Wind requires a reframe of how we want to see ourselves and be in our lives at this mid-stage (and beyond). The reframe takes the idea of managing an inevitable decline and throws it out the window. Instead it asks, right now, what am I choosing for myself, from where I am? Where am I choosing to invest?

Investment is both thoughts and behaviors. How you think about and hold yourself shows others how to think about you and hold you. So, if you claim “being old,” they will too. If you decide that you “can’t____” (fill in the blank), they will believe you.

You decide how you want to move in the world.
No one can stop your beliefs.

It can be hard to see this perspective and do the work alone.
This is soul work.
So don’t do it alone.

If you’re interested in leaning into your Second Wind and reframing what’s possible, follow the link in the bio 👆🏽and we’ll put you on a notification list. This month can be the start of something amazing.

Meet Zoe, my alter ego. She showed up about 5 year

Meet Zoe, my alter ego. She showed up about 5 years ago as I began to lean into my Second Wind (the up-leveling experience mid-stage life offers). Her voice is the one I heard telling me there were so many more life experiences for me. She’s the force that pushed me out of my perceived limitations and led me to solo travel and to launch ZoeGoes.

You too have an inner voice that wants the most for you - the greatest quality of life and experiences. That voice that longs to be free in the world without prejudice or limitation but you have to DECIDE to set her free.

You must be willing to trust yourself and peel back other’s expectations. If you are feeling antsy, or anxious or irritated and you’re not clear why - it’s possible your inner voice is trying to get your attention because it’s time for a change. The great news is that you don’t have to explore what this voice is trying to tell you alone. I’ll be your guide. I love this work.

I’m going to be running another session of “Who Am I Now?” In May. It’s a 6-week program (virtual sessions) to listen and explore what this inner voice has to say without fear, shame or judgement - and then to call in the most fulfilling vision of your Second Wind. If this sounds interesting or animates you, put “Yes” or your favorite emoji in the comments below. (It’s just a few keystrokes to begin seeing yourself and the possibilities more clearly.) There’s a link to learn more in the bio. 💗

What a thrill! My TEDxWilmette talk is in post pro

What a thrill! My TEDxWilmette talk is in post production. Six months from selection to presentation and what a wild ride.

Synchronicities are always so fascinating to me. My best friend happened to be talking to one of the people who recruits for the Wilmette team and recommended me. I applied and was selected. What I didn’t know was how fabulous the TEDxWilmette team is (all volunteers by the way) and how the process and ultimately the talk would refine my focus

First, the team. I’m sending big love out to the development team, production team and volunteers who make the experience for presenters and guests so amazing. It is not by accident or luck - this group is on it!

Shortly after we started I knew that this team was special. They were kind, encouraging and clearly organized. Their development process is nurturing and steady - you WILL get to the other side with something dynamic. I’m grateful for all of it - refinements, development schedule and support, especially from my coach Ami Campbell (who I am determined to get to edit the book that is coming out of this process!).

Thanks to my friends and clients who were able to came out to the event. Your love warms my heart.

And Brava to my co-presenters whose amazing ideas are definitely worth sharing! Looking forward to our continued connection.

By the way, if you weren’t able to make this presentation, salons are coming beginning in the fall. Each presenter will have a night where their video is shared and then they’re interviewed (fireside chat style).

That picture is of me and my Nana. She was my lov

That picture is of me and my Nana.
She was my love.
My refuge.
My deep listener.

Grandparents are in the enviable position of knowing what they know from their lived experience and as a result, they get to be better versions of themselves with their grandchildren.

The idea of grand parenting yourself is the same, especially as it relates to my concept of a second wind (the quality of life elevation that can happen beginning at mid-stage life). We can focus our lived experience to be better versions of ourselves going forward.

We can be kinder, more energetically generous and empathetic. More relaxed and knowing.

By our Second Wind, we understand the value of time, relationships, choice, dreams and regret.

But, I’ve also discovered that grand-parenting ourselves well, and completely, requires de-conditioning of perceived limitations and judgements - which is best done in a supportive community with loving guidance.

Getting around the shadows, doubts, and questioning within ourselves (from ourselves and the ones who love us) requires truth, acceptance and courage.

Saying “yes” to our dreams is more than a catch phrase, sexy phrase or trend-du-jour. I’m talking about soul work. I’m talking about saying yes to that deep calling waiting to be free in the world.

If this is animating you, put your favorite emoji below or simply say “yes”. It will put your life in motion on an entirely new trajectory. It’s that simple.

Your second wind (AKA mid-stage) is your most powe

Your second wind (AKA mid-stage) is your most powerful time despite what all of the social messages tell us. Use the power of your “lived experience” to make this the best time of your life! You are worthy! 🎵:India Arie- Worthy

Don’t let your fantasies die because someone dec

Don’t let your fantasies die because someone decided that it’s inappropriate or weird for middle-stage (not aged) people to “want” love, adventure, remarkable friendships, impact, great sex, more first times… Go get it.

If you’re feeling a calling, a desire to impact,

If you’re feeling a calling, a desire to impact, to explore the world and yourself in it; to be fully expressed and free in life. I’ve got a new program coming up. Put an emoji in the comments or DM me and I’ll share more!

Yep! I turn 60 this year and all the things are

Yep! I turn 60 this year and all the things are going through my mind!
* Time is evaporating...
* Can I be sexy?
* Can I make an impact? How?
* How to stay healthy and fit?
* How to ensure that I have more than enough money to maintain my lifestyle into my 90's?
* Can I pack in more fun and adventure?
I know I'm not alone.

I also know that a lot of junk (ours and other people's junk) can clog our mental and emotional airwaves and detour us from what we really want.

Historically, middle-stage women have been more of an after-thought. Past our prime so we kind of pack-up our sense of relevance with our kids when they go to college. Or, with the box of personal affects when we retire from our careers. And therefore give others permission to make us an after-thought.

THIS DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THE CASE!

There's a new paradigm and I'm basing it on data that shows a woman's confidence reaches parity with her male counter parts by her mid-40's but surpasses them in her 60's!

I believe that mid-stage life (and beyond) has the potential to be our most amazing stage yet! Your lived experience has great value, especially if you know how to package and express it.

I know, it can be hard to see or imagine. But know this, if you have ANY aspirations stirring in your heart, this is the time to sort it out.

It took years to develop the process I use to derive clarity and a path forward for anything I want to do. But, I'll happily give you the first step which is believing that you can. Then make a list of, "what you wish was different in your life?" That's the beginning of the road map.

If you want a jump start, follow the link in the bio 👆🏽to listen to my episode on @joyanyhow with Krista Robinson-Lyles. I share some of the insights related to how I'm working things out for my highest good these days; and you can too.

TEDxWilmette here I come! If you’re in the Chica

TEDxWilmette here I come! If you’re in the Chicago area, join me for a thought-provoking afternoon with 5 other amazing women exploring the theme of “Why Not?” The link to learn more and grab tickets is in the bio. ON SALE TOMORROW (apparently sell out in hours 😬🤩) 🙌🏽❤️ @tedxwilmette

You’re way more powerful than you think. Conside

You’re way more powerful than you think. Consider of “victim mindset” keeping you worried, stuck, uncertain? You can move past it. We can move past it together. Put your favorite emoji in the comments below so we can get you on to your heart’s desire.💜🙌🏽

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