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So glad you’re here! Its no accident. There is something about you and me that is resonating at the same frequency. Are you ready for a change in your work, life or business? I have an unusual way to discovering exactly what that is and how you can get there – all while inviting your Spirit to be part of the action. You are here to help us. You have amazing gifts that we all need. Lets take that to where ever you want to go – on your terms.

beyond blind spots, fresh perspectives, Karyn Pettigrew

Don’t Fight The Funk

I’ve decided to stop fighting the funk. Like any other pain we experience, funk is a warning signal that something is out of alignment. It may feel like a desire to be alone, edginess, or just a bad attitude. When the funk steps up in your life, know that it’s time to take a break.

Everything natural has cycles; flowers, the moon, the seasons – why wouldn’t we? If you pay attention you’ll probably discover a pattern. So that when the funk shows up, you’ll know that it’s a good time to take a step back.  Funk time is a good time to allow yourself to receive. To be supported as opposed to doing all the supporting. Have a cup of tea; take a walk; go to the gym; take a nap….

I’m discovering with many of my clients that the practice of healthy receiving is a foreign subject. We need to do both – give and receive to maintain balance.

So, who takes care of you? Who will you allow to support you? Have you asked for help recently?

Asking for help is not weak, it’s really the only way to succeed.

No-Thing Is Certain

I realize now, that I’ve been processing a LOT the past few weeks. So much so, that I would find myself on the verge of tears for, seemingly, no obvious reason. And yet, the reasons are quite obvious – Afghanistan, Haiti, the Delta variant, insecurities, no clear pathways…two businesses, and relationships that are changing in ways I cannot, nor should I try, to control. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Evolutionary shifts require disruption, and we won’t like it. We are creatures of habit – we rely on what feels like certainty. However, the only certainty is that NO-THING is certain. We must accept this. We must learn to dance with circumstance and rise to our best. We must keep humanity and kindness at the forefront and remember that we are ALL more alike than different. The person you judge is a wife/husband; mother/father; daughter/son; best-friend too. They have dreams and desires. All they want is to be seen, loved, and to know they made a difference – like you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The only way out is through – with as much kindness as we can muster and a knowing that there is more than enough for us all. If we all choose to live in our gifts the puzzle will come together. 💜

Is It Time For A “Time-Out”?

Is it time for a “time out”? It doesn’t matter who you are, how much you make, what you do – we all need timeouts.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I’m currently running two businesses – @zoegoesofficial and @beyondblindspots and there are days when I’m not sure exactly what day it is.😬 But, there is a symbiotic relationship between them – I used my Blind Spots methodology to design and launch ZoeGoes and ZoeGoes is one of the live case examples I use when teaching in the coaching business. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It’s really easy to feel like we can’t take time because there’s so much that still needs to be done; BUT, the “To Do” list is never-ending. Finding a “great time” to take a break never seems to come, so, let’s take it anyway!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Time outs can be taken daily – like time in the yard (weeds are relentless) or periodic long weekends or more time if you can swing it. All you need is a space that relaxes you (nature offers great spaces so do bathtubs.) Make a pact with a friend that you’ll find time for yourselves and then do it! You won’t be sorry. 💜

Stuck In A Spiral?

“When you’re stuck in a spiral, to change all aspects of the spin, you need only to change one thing.”

-Christina Baldwin

Ever feel like your life is like that movie Groundhog Day?  In the movie, Bill Murray gets trapped in a spiral where he relives the same day over and over.  what I’m talking about is getting trapped in situations or circumstances that impede your ability to live your dream, over and over again.

The quote by Christina Baldwin eloquently captures a lesson from my 10 step system about change and perspective.  My metaphor is the kaleidoscope, but the message is the same; change one thing and you’ll change everything.  The simplest, but often more challenging place to start is by changing your perspective on the situation.

Can you:

  1. See the learning in it?  As painful as this may seem, EVERY situation has a lesson in it for us;  even the painful ones.  What can you take away from this experience that strengthens you?  What did you learn about yourself or the others involved?
  2. Do one thing differently? It doesn’t have to be a full-scale change.  Simply, start by changing one aspect, and then another.  Eventually, you’ll have made a significant change – collectively.
  3. Believe that things can be different? Changing your mind changes everything.  If you don’t believe it can be different, you’re guaranteeing that it won’t be.  But if you believe that change is possible, you’ve at least left the door open for something new.

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Feeling Like You Can’t Catch A Break?

This is a real mindset challenge; as most things are.

When we feel like we can’t catch a break, we’re usually right. In fact, by believing that, you make it a “done deal.”

Here’s the metaphysical aspect of this, whatever it is you believe, you are likely to see unfold in your life. The old adage says, “Seeing is believing.” I like to flip that around to say:

“Believing is seeing.  “What you believe will direct what you see.

Think about it, when you are feeling low, overwhelmed, or in crisis, what do you usually see? More things that seem to be going wrong. And when you are feeling on top of the world, you notice more glorious things. The key here is not to get stuck in a low vibration and to have a mechanism to shift you up to a higher, more productive vibration.

Here are a few tools that I share with my clients for moving out of a stuck place:

1) Get moving, literally.  

Engaging the physical body also helps shift emotions and intellectual stagnation.  So, take a quick walk, or go exercise, or if you can’t leave the office, turn on some music that makes you dance and dance behind closed doors for 10 minutes.  It will really help.

2) Find a reason to laugh.

Buy a season of your favorite sit-com and keep it handy. Watch a half-hour and shift the mood. Laughter is on the same vibration as prayer. Go for the belly laugh and get out of the funk.

3)Sing.

Ok, you may not think you have a great singing voice but it doesn’t matter. When we sing (especially songs with a good message) our hearts open. So sing a song that lets you surrender the negative feelings or sing a song that makes you smile. In either case, you’ll feel differently afterward.

Do You Have A Spot?

Can you take a minute? I found this beautiful spot when I was in DC – and took a minute…to breathe… to feel the sun on my skin…to be grateful.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Can you “take a minute”? Do you have a “spot”?

Biggest Blind Spot? Accepting Your Talent As Worthy

We create so much challenge for ourselves when we deny what is true.

We diminish the value of what comes easily to us, because it comes easily to us and therefore, can’t be worth much, right? Only things that take a long time, cost a lot of money, and are complex to create are worth a lot, right?
What we’re forgetting when we think this way about our gifts and talents, is that to other people, what we do with ease could take them a long time, cost lots of money to duplicate and be difficult to create.
Just how do you determine if you’re selling yourself short?

Here are 3 symptoms of selling yourself short:

1) People love your work, in fact, you may be getting all your new clients by referral, AND YET you’re barely scraping by financially.
2) You are the person that people come to, to “get things done.” The effervescent “yes” person.
3) You can’t seem to catch up and you’re exhausted.

What are the action keys?

1) You have to put a more accurate price value on your work.
2) You must honor the value of your time. You have to say ‘no’ to something. Make it the things with the lowest priority on your personal list. This may be hard for people with a pleaser temperament, but if you leave this unattended, the result is number 3 above, exhaustion.
3) By taking corrective action with 1 and 2 above, you’ll begin to create more space in your life; which means you can opt for a slower pace and more rest.

I know that I make it sound so simple. It is simple but not easy, that’s why we all need help, support, an objective point of view. Find one, better yet, find a few trusted minds who also have “believing eyes” for you; and put them together in a room as your advisory group.  Meet quarterly and then let me know how it’s working for you. I love hearing success stories.

What Triggers You?

Pay attention to what triggers you. What fears get raised? What emotions get called up? Are they realistic? Like, are you triggered by price points that you could easily absorb? How old is that? Is it even yours? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Tiggers are signals of misalignment. The follow-up question is what do you need, or need to do, to correct it? (Hint: At this stage, it is not about what someone else needs to do. It’s what steps you need to take to feel better. ie take a break…speak up…new job…healthier food…)

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